My clients often find themselves caught off guard and unprepared for the amount of grieving that comes after leaving a domestic violence relationship. I explain to them that although they may not miss the abuser themselves or the way they were treated, they may grieve the loss of the relationship itself… the loss of the marriage… the loss of their children having both parents together… the loss of the dream that they envisioned for their future.
Healing really is a roller coaster of emotions. But I compare it to a roller coaster with a loop in it. You may go through one of the stages…such as grief….and then think, “Oh, good. I’m done with that stage. That was the worst.” But then you are just moving along, and unexpectantly, hit that loop and it throws you backwards into that stage again.
And I am here to tell you that stinks… it is not fun… but it is okay. It is part of the healing process and it is to be expected.
It is part of MY job to make sure that you don’t stay stuck in any loops. I want you to come out stronger on the other side and eventually, those loops get smaller and smaller as you become stronger and stronger.
If you need help, or you know someone who does, I am a life coach specializing in domestic violence escape and recovery. I am partnered with two agencies who cover the cost for individual coaching sessions with me and I also facilitate free support groups for both agencies. Please message me if you need help or more info.
No one should have to walk this journey alone. You CAN heal. You WILL get through this. And life is so much sweeter on the other side.
Stay strong in the storm.
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